Dearest Loved Ones

Dearest Loved Ones,

The Writer, Preparing for Her Possible Farewells, Maggie’s Way

After decades of physical and emotional challenges, most recently from my breast cancer metastasis, which is beyond recovery at this point and causing me immense pain and suffering, I have decided to take back control of my body and my life, Maggie’s Way! Barring a miracle (a slim chance at this point, but always possible!), I have asked for Medical Assistance in Dying (MAID) for this Tuesday afternoon, the 5th of September, at the Palliative Care Unit of the Vancouver General Hospital, where I’m currently staying. I am not giving up; I am simply choosing “the easier way” this time, after a lifetime of always choosing “the harder path” of striving to live a full life, and then some, despite the challenges of dystonia.

I welcome any and all friends and family wishing to visit with me again in person (or in spirit!) at anytime now, including at my “transition party” we will be having on Tuesday in my room prior to the medical procedure. Please contact my Sister Dorothy by cell at 647-990-8830, or by email, with any questions or RSVPs. You can send any last thoughts to me directly by email, but no promises I’ll reply back from this side.

THANK YOU all for your love, friendship, support, care, wisdom, laughs, and even tears, as they each help me on my journey—and I know that I, too, had some impact on your journey—and for that I, too, am grateful.

Love,
Maggie / Malgosia / Margota
xo

29 thoughts on “Dearest Loved Ones

  1. Dear Maggie,

    Dorothy is one of my dearest friends and I have heard much about you throughout the years of our friendship. I wanted to tell you that I will be with you in spirit on Tuesday. I wish you peace, dear woman, and may your steps onto the plains of the spiritual world bring you such sincere joy that this world couldn’t contain it. I don’t know what the next life holds…but I believe solidly that it does not end here. Our truest selves continue without the restrictions of these bodies. My prayer for you will be that excitement and anticipation for the next phase, without pain and with joy, will soften the transition both for you and your loved ones…and will help to contextualize the loss that you all will undoubtedly feel.

    I don’t believe that this is a good bye. And I look forward to meeting you in the great beyond.

    Love and peace,
    Eerika

    • My Dear Sweet Erica!

      Thank you for taking the time to share your genuine thoughts and reflections, looking forward! Your friendship with Dorothy speaks volumes, and I thank you for sharing …

      Thank you for connecting with with me–and through my website post with all of us.

      Love, love, love!
      Maggie <3 <3 <3
      xo

      • I’m with you in spirit
        I wish you could see my heart to know how sincerely I mean this

        Until we meet…

        love,
        Eerika

  2. Dear Maggie,

    I’m writing you from Addis Ababa on the roof of Africa.

    I just received an email from Stephanie with your announcement. Although we haven’t seen each other for ages, this news hits me quite painfully.

    But I want to see this indeed as a new beginning for you, the end of one world and the beginning of another one….
    Beautiful, cheerful memories are in my mind when I think of you, the time Stephanie introduced me to you many years ago in Vancouver (1998 I think it was?)
    I am sure it is with such beautiful thoughts and feelings that you will leave this world and begin your travel.

    I give you a big, big hug and a sweet kiss on your cheek!

    Love,

    Holger

    • Dear Holger,

      It is so lovely to hear from you!!

      Thank you for the wonderful reminders of our rendez-vous !

      Thank you, dear friend — to me and to beautiful Stephanie. Je t’embrasse <3

      Love,
      Maggie <3
      xo

  3. Dear Maggie,

    Those of us fortunate enough to have crossed paths with you in this life will grieve the absence of your passion, your creativity and your caring, while rejoicing in your freedom from pain and celebrating your life and unquenchable spirit.

    Go in peace, and we’ll see you there when we arrive, or on the next turn around in this world. Know you have brought joy to so many with your shared words, and you will be missed. Gentle hugs.

    Nancy

  4. Dear Maggie,

    Your announcement hit me like a blow to the gut.and it’s difficult to respond to your eloquent post. You have given (and are giving) all of us at FFL all so much In the short time I’ve know you and are displaying such grace in the face of adversity. Your genuine warmth, open-heart, beauty, passion and creativity have been a beacon to me.

    I will never forget the two poetry readings of yours I attended. You uplifted and inspired my sometimes weary heart with your words and movements that were so artfully accompanied by your guitarist friend. My spirit soared and I was moved to tears.

    Your warm smiles and hugs were always comforting. I wish I’d had the opportunity to know you better. We are all one and in that sense you are always with me. Thank you for being you and for sharing your heart with me. You will have a special place in my heart and thoughts forever.

    Wishing you a peaceful transition,
    Love, Eroca

    • Dear Eroca,

      I really appreciate your reflections on our friendship, and the impact it has on you’d

      I love our mutual interest in poetry!

      Love,
      Maggie <3
      xo

  5. Dear Maggie.
    When I think of you, I always remember the most incredible hugs you gave. Straight from the heart. So much emotion and feeling. We only met a few times but it was always at happy occasions with laughter and joy. Now Dear Maggie, brave Maggie, you are seeking peace. I wish you the peace you desire and deserve. You will always be in my heart.
    Love always and forever
    Trudy

  6. Maggie – it’s Robin – we were at UBC together in 98/99. Those were good times. Phil Barton forwarded your message – just now. I send hugs to you and your family. You have always inspired those around you and you will continue to do so. You are a strong woman – and brave. May peace be yours soon. We will see you on the other side. Robin

  7. Hi Maggie, this is Mark Schwark writing. Phil let me know of the news. While it’s been many years since we have seen each other, I always appreciated your sense of humour and positive outlook, and am in awe of your energy and stamina in all life’s challenges. I wish you the very best in the next phase of your journey. Mark

  8. Dear Maggie, I wrote you an email, now but feel compelled to write again. Memories are flooding back like little vignettes of the times our lives have intersected over the years. To recall common interests and friends is a beautiful gift. In the incredible courage of choosing medical assistance in dying you are giving all your friends and loved ones an chance to share their love and let you know how you’ve touched us. Thank you. It with my deepest respect and love that I bid you farewell. I will always feel your presence on the bike paths of Vancouver.

  9. Dear Maggie,

    I am writing this late on Sept 4, from my office in Kitchener. I know we did not spend much time directly socializing in University but we did have common classes and common friends. From my memory we had a few, (maybe lots) of beers at various events together. I truly cherish those years, and you were a part of those great memories. Thank you for being such as strong part of our class, you were part of our unique identity at U of W.
    One more thing, about 5 years ago we did get a chance to meet each other again, while you were visiting Waterloo for our 15th anniversary of Graduation. I was taken back by the strength you demonstrated when telling people about your cancer battle. Hugs from all of us who were blessed to share our “learning” years with you.

    Chris Sharpe (Loaf)
    1997 U of W Civil Engineering.

  10. Dear Maggie,
    so mamy people loving and missing you…
    Do you really have to leave? Is there no other option? I know better than anyone that suffering is a terrible thing, but what if running away is not the best choice? Anything can change as long as you live, only as long as you live… Why don’t you give yourself (and us) another chance to rethink it…
    I admire you being brave and hope you’re going to be even braver.
    With all my truest love,
    JC

  11. Our friendship was brief, compared to your others, but your impact on me will not be brief, but lasting. I am grateful for knowing you and I am the better for it. Nancy, above, captured it all. I think of your serenity and positivity. I’ll see you again.

    Love, Heidi

  12. I’m so happy to have found this thru my online emic.org friend dear anoma I’m praying in Jesus name for you dear Maggie for even tho I have never met you as I read about you I know you have lived a bright joyous life I think but not as bright as the true life with Jesus yet to come
    E much love fromy Indiana home to you John 14 says Jesus has a mansion waiting on you when you receive Jesus loves you received his home heaven as your forever home.too so welcome.homw today heaven is a place of loves joy beyo d compare 1 John 3 1 much love til we meet there I’m praying for your loved ones Jesus will be with you til the very end and then with your family too much loves

  13. Maggie I am here with Mom

    I’m typing for Her… I have just shown her your post:

    “Loving you Maggie and thinking about you lots. It’s ok to let go. And let God. May be seeing you soon. Skinny hugs.
    Thanks for our beautiful trip to Bali and our wonderful Balinese dinners, and sushi. Thank you for eye gazing nights and deep talks which helped us know each other deeply. I’ll be there with you in spirit as you transition.” ?????

    From me: I send you my warmest wishes for your journey out of this life and into the next. May you be held in the ultimate light of love and feel peace move through your whole being. May the pain that you have been experiencing be transmuted into a force of love as you leave this beautiful body. You are a dear heart and I admire you for your strength to endure. Rest peacefully dear heart.

    Love Janet and Karla

  14. Hello Dear Maggie,

    I am starting this email off with a warm hug to you, because that is exactly what I would like to do right now!

    I want to thank you for your wonderful smile, your warmth, courage and inspiration that you brought and continue to bring into our lives. You are one of the people I would look forward to seeing the most, because you always brought this contagious energy with you. You showed me that no matter how hard things get, there is always a reason to keep fighting & stay strong and positive. While all of our patients here are an inspiration, you went above and beyond that and truly affected all of our lives more than you can imagine and more than I even know, I am sure.

    As sad as it makes me that I won’t get to see you again in this physical world, I am more than excited for you, as I know that you, more than anyone, deserve the feeling and freedom of complete peace. I am astonished by your bravery and know that you have made the best decision with every step of your treatment.

    I know you will have a wonderful transition party today with the people you love most and I hope you know that I am there with you in spirit not only today but as you move to your new home. I can’t wait until we meet again!

    Thank you for leaving us with your beautiful words on Maggie’s way, I will continue to share them and use as encouragement and inspiration!

    Dzi?kuj? bardzo i do zobaczenia wkrótce s?odki Maggie ?

    z mi?o?ci?

    Silvia

  15. Hi Maggie,

    Thank you for giving us the chance to see you again….

    You are an inspiration and however brief, Paul and I are blessed to know you.

    I don’t know if you remember George, but I shared with him your e-mail and he remarked that you are “A very kind soul; and very brave”.

    Love,
    Angel

  16. Dear Maggie,
    Since meeting long ago as Masters students and back-alley neighbours, I’ve admired your strength and perseverance. I always enjoyed bumping into you around town over the years and sharing conversations (I’m remembering the BCIT SEMAC event most recently when we talked about your writing and French language). This past week I was enjoying the quiet in the Wilno/Kaszuby area of Ontario cottage country and learned of your news from Phil upon my return. I’m wishing you much courage and peace as you do things your way.
    Love and hugs,
    Lillian

  17. Dear Maggie, thank you for sharing and providing an opportunity for those of us who have had the honour to know you to share as well. Unfortunately, I did not get your message until now, but I am thinking of you and trust that you know how much I appreciate you. Thank you for helping us create the SEMAC program, which is still going strong, and for being such a fun-loving and brilliant person.

    No more words. They do not matter because the feelings communicate the rest.
    Jennie.

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